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Back Again

   Well it has really been a challenge to have the time to write. Mi Amor spent 10 days in the hospital. It is a long commute each way and that was a busy time. She has begun her treatment finally. We are on the way to recovery. Her breathing is still very shallow and she tires quickly right now.    For me it is still the same. I am still caged 24/7. It did come up that I could take a break during this trying period, but I would not have that. I am her kept husband as agreed upon 2 1/2 years ago. I love her and need this bond even more at this time to be honest. It does allow for some kind of connection at least.    I am instructed to edge in front of her every 3 days or so. I have been allowed to finish several times the past few months. Always in front of my keyholder.    About 5 days ago she said I really needed an attitude adjustment and had me fetch 2 paddles and lay across the bed in front of her. She was crossed leg sitting up and delive...

Life Is Hitting Hard

  Wanted to get back and post an update. It has been quite some time since I have had a minute to do this.    Mi Amor has not had any improvement in her health. We are still dealing with more diagnosis and not on to a treatment plan yet. She can not breath enough to walk up our stairs right now. It has been tough.   Needless to say her desire for any kind of sexual play is there mentally, however there is no way physically she can do anything. We deal with it but both of us do miss how things had been progressing in our relationship. After 20+ years together we were still enjoying each other sexually.    I am still caged and do not have any desire to go back to living "wild". I love how entering in to a male chastity lifestyle had solidified an already great marriage and want to keep that.   Mi Amor has been allowing me relief by way of masturbating while kneeling in front of her. Not often, maybe a 10 - 12 day wait on average.   Also there h...

What Is Said Matters

   One thing about living a male chastity/flr/dd lifestyle is that communication between us is all the more important with all the psychological aspects of it that can come up for each other.    We have not been doing very much sexually with Mi Amor dealing with so many health problems right now. I do all it takes to keep our home going and my keyholder comfortable. I would love more activity for sure, but this is where we are at this time. We are committed to each other and both love this lifestyle.    Last night was one of those learning experiences for us both. It had been about 6 weeks since any punishment has been carried out. Mi Amor has not had enough strength to carry out proper session. She was also preparing to leave for a few days with some girlfriends as a way to try and start getting around. I thought it would be great for her too. She also said she thought I should get some relief before she left.    Evening came and she was about...

Taking Things As They Cum...

   It has been awhile since I have been able to really sit down and write. As you know we are dealing with major medical issues. Mi amor has moments where she can not breath and is unable to really do anything. I really feel bad that I cannot do anything to help, just make her comfortable. I know she appreciates it too. It isn't like she doesn't think about us during all this, it is just she can't do all that she wants to right now.    Sunday had made it 9 days since I have been allowed to cum. In that time there has been several hospital trips, a hospital stay and lots of poking and scans for my keyholder. She has been a trooper through it all. But there is a good 3 months of this ahead for her.    On Thursday Mi Amor let me know she was well aware of how far off schedule we are for my punishment. She also felt it should be taken care of before getting any relief. I agreed and was glad to know she had been thinking about us. Also I know how it would hurt...
    The thing that I enjoy most about this lifestyle is the psychology of it and how it can be morphed to fit the couple living it. I don’t think I have run across any blog that is written by a real couple that doesn’t contain their own twist on it in some unique way that suits their life.    For myself the wait is not what it is about. It is the communication and play that leads up to my eventual relief. And for Mi Amor, she derives pleasure and interest by never letting me know if this is the day. I am just expected to follow the rules and she will take care of my sexual pleasures. As she sees fit.    It has worked out for us in another way also. She suffers from serious medical issues dealing several cancers. She beats them and they return. A 10 year battle now. She has periods when she can not even walk to the bathroom without having to pause to get her breath. Things like vacuuming the house, carrying laundry, cleaning good are impossible. I am one w...

Total Commitment !

   We are coming up on 2 years since we began living a 24/7 male chastity/dd/flr marriage. It started as my idea to spark a dying love life due to medical issues. Once Mi amor accepted and we placed my cock in a cage our life together has become very interesting.    In fact at this point I don't think either of us could imagine living any other way now. She enjoys the never ending attention she gets and I enjoy serving my keyholder. I wake every day excited to see her and begin to pamper her again.    I know that some men wonder about the effect a cage will have on their penis if worn 24/7. I can assure you, nothing changes except the fact you will no longer be in control of your own cock. Your source of release and pleasure is in the hands of your keyholder. There will be moments when you wonder why you even did this as you are left frustrated at times while your Goddess lets you flounder.    I have read of some who say it is all BS because yo...

Catching Up!

   Well it has been weeks of Mi Amor trying her best to recover from her surgery and dealing with excessive pollen at the same time. I felt bad for her. It was a rough spell.    We have been pretty quiet through it all with me trying to keep her comfortable and make sure the house and dogs are taken care of.    Outside of some edging we haven't really been able to "play" at all. But about 2 days ago Mi Amor let me know we were 2 weeks behind on my punishment and we will be getting to it. She did let me know that I have been attentive and busy taking care of things but we both know I need this to maintain my focus.    So yesterday it was the day to get back on course. In the morning it was edging again. Only day 8 since last relief,  but I was horny as hell!!    Later on, after I had just showered, Mi Amor said "let's get your punishment done before I take mine". That means panties off and get myself ready on the horse. Ball ga...

Are There Rules For Edging?

  Well of course there are no rules except for the basic. No cumming!!  I believe outside of that a couple again have to explore and see what works best for them. That seems to be a reoccurring statement in the male chastity/ flr / dd world.   I read of many who say the only way is for their keyholder to take charge and edge them. I am not so sure. The one thing I do know is edging is necessary to maintain the aroused state of the caged male and it gives his penis a workout by allowing for a full erection and fill the muscle with blood.   As far as how it is carried out is up to the keyholder, right? I mean that is the way it goes for everything a kept hubby gets. We asked for it!   In our daily life which involves work, housework, taking care of pets, maintaing yard etc... We find time to play. Whether it is me pleasuring Mi Amor, giving her a massage, making love or what ever we are doing it is with my beautiful keyholder in charge.   This goes for ed...

To Serve With Love

  I imagine most men who fantasize about submitting to a dominant female see this as nothing but a way to get the sexual attention they are dreaming about. 24/7 of this powerful woman over them as they are used all the time. Well guys, it is a little different than that in a male chastity/flr marriage.   Reality is different. My wife/keyholder is the most beautiful woman in the world. Her beauty and sexy ways have always turned me on. However, since the day she accepted our entering in to this lifestyle her beauty and sexiness has magnified itself. And she uses it to her advantage!   The truth is you still live life. Work, social events, family etc... The time actually spent 'playing" is really only a small percentage of what it entails. I know every couple will find the things that work best in their relationship.   For us it a lifestyle and not a weekend thing. We are living this way. I am honored to serve her and let her know I understand my position and accept...

The Thrill Of The Tease

  Once we had made the decision of male chastity and the cage was on we now had to learn about this new lifestyle (new for us). So we began sharing info with each other and would experiment with things to see what fits our marriage.   One of the most important things we discovered is tease and denial. Mi Amor was quite surprised that I was willing to be aroused to the point of climax and then be put away without the finish. I wasn't sure about it as I was never in this situation before. I was a full time masturbator so I never went without. Talk about something that will keep you focused on your woman!   It did not take Mi Amor long to get the teasing down. She has her ways that she has developed that keep me wanting her. Always. I am amazed at some of what she comes up with on her own after some time as my keyholder. She is a tease!!   Every night she gets a massage. These can be done a number of ways. We did purchase a massage table for this as we felt it would ...