The thing that I enjoy most about this lifestyle is the psychology of it and how it can be morphed to fit the couple living it. I don’t think I have run across any blog that is written by a real couple that doesn’t contain their own twist on it in some unique way that suits their life.For myself the wait is not what it is about. It is the communication and play that leads up to my eventual relief. And for Mi Amor, she derives pleasure and interest by never letting me know if this is the day. I am just expected to follow the rules and she will take care of my sexual pleasures. As she sees fit.
It has worked out for us in another way also. She suffers from serious medical issues dealing several cancers. She beats them and they return. A 10 year battle now. She has periods when she can not even walk to the bathroom without having to pause to get her breath. Things like vacuuming the house, carrying laundry, cleaning good are impossible. I am one who can not sit still. So it has worked well with her keeping me in panties around the house and I do most of the housework for her. We both get something out of it. It hits my submissive desire and she gets to flex her power role. Do I feel I am taken advantage of? No, I serve her as needed. It is an FLR lifestyle too!
Same with edging. For her to really do a long edging is nearly impossible. So many of the times I am ordered in front of her and to remove my cage and edge myself under her guidance. Is this wrong? No, it suits us well. I again get my submissive desire met and she flexs her power.
In one instance she knew she would be down for weeks, so she had me masturbate in front of her. Nothing is done without her instruction and permission. And we both are fulfilled. Does that count as me jacking off? I don't believe it does as I was told to do it, not something I did behind her back.
Mi Amor does understand her controlling my sexual pleasure does condition me (as does the paddle) and enjoys the attention she gets.
To say the least I am very happy where things are and where they are headed. We both get fulfilled in this lifestyle.
I agree, the most important thing about FLR/DD is the psychology of it. It can make a big difference to what would otherwise be boring household chores. I noticed this one day when my girlfriend told me in a firm voice to tidy up the apartment and vacuum it. I started off fully clothed but soon stripped to my underpants, as it was warm work. My girlfriend found my bottom in tight briefs a tempting target and I got it patted and pinched more than once while I was working.
ReplyDeleteIt is very good that your FLR is helping you both to cope with Mi Amor's health problems. Subjugation and servitude seems to be just what you need!
Best wishes, Jon.
Thank you. I don't know if you read our very first post but it has a little more insight in to what led to our adopting this lifestyle.
ReplyDeleteI have been reading your first post. 24/7 chastity seems to be just what was needed to improve your relationship. Your wife's disciplinary spankings also sound very effective. 50 to 60 hard swats with a paddle! After 15 to 20 swats I can't sit down for the next few hours and I sometimes have bruises on my bottom the next day. Does she tie you up when she spanks you? (I have been tied up on occasion, but not for spanking.)
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No, she has never tied me for punishment. We do have a spanking horse and bondage cuffs so it could be easily done. But I am in a pretty vulnerable position on the horse and stay in place pretty good ...... Mi Amor has upped the level to the point that I am sure I will be screaming my safe wprd one day soon.
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