I imagine most men who fantasize about submitting to a dominant female see this as nothing but a way to get the sexual attention they are dreaming about. 24/7 of this powerful woman over them as they are used all the time. Well guys, it is a little different than that in a male chastity/flr marriage.
Reality is different. My wife/keyholder is the most beautiful woman in the world. Her beauty and sexy ways have always turned me on. However, since the day she accepted our entering in to this lifestyle her beauty and sexiness has magnified itself. And she uses it to her advantage!
The truth is you still live life. Work, social events, family etc... The time actually spent 'playing" is really only a small percentage of what it entails. I know every couple will find the things that work best in their relationship.
For us it a lifestyle and not a weekend thing. We are living this way. I am honored to serve her and let her know I understand my position and accept what comes as I did ask for this. Mi Amor has done her part in becoming stronger and sterner in her role as my keyholder and disciplinarian. A typical day for us is like this... I get up a little before her. I put some panties on as she likes me in them and I deep down need the mild humiliation and slight embarrassment that wearing panties brings. I get coffee ready and bring hers to her when she is awake. I then begin chores. Dishes, vacuuming, laundry. I do this for Mi Amor any day I am home from work. I get her meals ready and clean up each time. I do this all to show my love and appreciation to my Goddess who takes care of my needs.
She likes to have her feet rubbed now and then through the day. She watches her shows and does any thing she needs to do without having to bother with menial household chores.
She reminds me of my position and loves to tell me "you should be" when I tell her how horny I am at times. With a smile of course.
I do all this because I love this woman and love seeing the joy this brings her. I also love the reaction now when her girlfriends find out she is a pampered wife who is in charge of her man. She doesn't have to deal with the stuff they do with lazy and un attentive men.
This morning I am on day 3 of no relief. I am getting hornier each day. She never gives me a clue when I may get relief and it keeps me focused. I love her for taking this so seriously and becoming my keyholder.
Reality is different. My wife/keyholder is the most beautiful woman in the world. Her beauty and sexy ways have always turned me on. However, since the day she accepted our entering in to this lifestyle her beauty and sexiness has magnified itself. And she uses it to her advantage!
The truth is you still live life. Work, social events, family etc... The time actually spent 'playing" is really only a small percentage of what it entails. I know every couple will find the things that work best in their relationship.
For us it a lifestyle and not a weekend thing. We are living this way. I am honored to serve her and let her know I understand my position and accept what comes as I did ask for this. Mi Amor has done her part in becoming stronger and sterner in her role as my keyholder and disciplinarian. A typical day for us is like this... I get up a little before her. I put some panties on as she likes me in them and I deep down need the mild humiliation and slight embarrassment that wearing panties brings. I get coffee ready and bring hers to her when she is awake. I then begin chores. Dishes, vacuuming, laundry. I do this for Mi Amor any day I am home from work. I get her meals ready and clean up each time. I do this all to show my love and appreciation to my Goddess who takes care of my needs.
She likes to have her feet rubbed now and then through the day. She watches her shows and does any thing she needs to do without having to bother with menial household chores.
She reminds me of my position and loves to tell me "you should be" when I tell her how horny I am at times. With a smile of course.
I do all this because I love this woman and love seeing the joy this brings her. I also love the reaction now when her girlfriends find out she is a pampered wife who is in charge of her man. She doesn't have to deal with the stuff they do with lazy and un attentive men.
This morning I am on day 3 of no relief. I am getting hornier each day. She never gives me a clue when I may get relief and it keeps me focused. I love her for taking this so seriously and becoming my keyholder.
I am glad to hear that discipline is getting results with you. Is there a sexual element involved in it, either for you or for her? I talked about the possibility of DD with my partner one time, she said that when she spanks me it is arousing for her, she was not sure if paddling me would work as discipline. Jon.
ReplyDeleteWe did have a talk about that very thing when we were starting out. Mi Amor felt that she was giving me some kind of pleasure when she would paddle me because I was "in to" spanking. I would get done with a session and think "that wasn't to bad. I can handle that". I let her know after she told me she wasn't seeing much change as we were addressing the same infractions every time. We came to the realization that if this was going to work and we were really going live this lifestyle, then the discipline should hurt. It should hurt enough that I don't want to face her for a real offense. Therefore the maintenance paddlings became very intense and painful. I can feel it for quite awhile and will have bruising for a week sometimes..... As a matter of fact I did commit a major blunder back a few days before new years I will share soon. The discipline session we had to settle the matter was hard. I was in tears. I will never make that mistake again. Those bring change. She just had to get to a point were she was not concerned about causing me pain.... In fact it is so intense that if I get hard in my cage waiting for her to enter our play room it goes away quickly when the paddles start to fly!!
ReplyDeleteThanks for the prompt answer. Yes, that makes sense, a disciplinary spanking must be severe enough to act as a deterrent. Does she now spank you only as discipline or does she also give fun spankings?
ReplyDeleteAnother point: I doubt if I am the only one who reads this blog. Maybe some of the other readers, female or male, would like to make comments? If Chastehubby can take the trouble to write interesting posts, the least we can do is to give him some feedback.
Jon.
Thank you.. No, we really do not have "fun" spankings. There are weekly (Thursday) maintenance sessions that are very intense to keep me thinking right. In those sessions any offenses are dealt with (if there are any) over and above the maintenance level. But no, no "fun" spankings.... There is the occasional "instant" punishment when I have upset her and she wants to let it out right then. Only twice I believe.
ReplyDeleteYou say your wife's girlfriends have found out that she is a pampered wife who is in charge of her man. Do they know that she spanks you and dominates you?
ReplyDeleteJon.
Two of them do. They are both very open minded to things and both wish they could find a man to try this with. I guess they talk amongst themselves more than I thought.
DeleteThat's interesting. I have found the idea of female dominance and spanking exciting since my teens. At first I thought I was alone in my interest, then I read a letter in Penthouse from a man who said his wife often spanked him. There were quite often letters about spanking in Penthouse and similar magazines, but they were mostly about males spanking females. Later, when the Internet took off, it was the same story: numerous sites devoted to M/F spanking but very little about women taking the dominant role. In the last few years though, things seemed to have changed. There are now plenty of websites and blogs dealing with female-led relationships. I can only think that this a reflection of changing gender roles in society.
ReplyDeleteRegarding the two women: have they talked to you about discipline? If so, do you find it embarrassing?
Jon.
My wife even said she see's more flr related stuff these days.... They have joked when we are all together and I interrupt Mi Amor. She will quickly remind me to write that down for punishment time. They all get a laugh out of that but know she means it. I do find it embarrassing but exciting. I guess that touches something deep down in a submissive husband.
ReplyDeleteI think embarrassment and excitement often go together. When I am across my partner's knee I feel embarrassment at the humiliation of being spanked on my bare bottom. At the same time though I find it very exciting! Regarding the advance of flr, I wonder if there will be a complete reversal of gender roles. In old movies from the 50s and 60s there are sometimes scenes where a man spanks his wife or girlfriend in front of other people. McClintock is probably the best known example. Maybe in a few years time it will be considered normal for a woman to give her husband or boyfriend a spanking in front of friends or neighbors any time he acts up.
ReplyDeleteJon.
When you are desperate for relief, your wife might like to give you a hard spanking right after you are made to cum/orgasm. It is VERY PAINFUL and unpleasant. It can certainly be used for punishment or else to make him pay a price for release.
ReplyDeleteInteresting.
ReplyDeleteMake him hold his cum in his mouth as he is spanked. That will let you know how much he needs the release if he agrees to it. I have never been happier than when my wife granted me release provided I eat my own semen. I was so relieved and happy because I was so desperate to come. And there was so much of it and so nasty I hated it. It would of been 100 times worse if I had to hold it in my mouth through a spanking
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